CHANGE DISECTED

A process, an occurrence, something unique, something different, something out of the ordinary is change. Some changes are such that we can enforce them, but many happen spontaneously and constantly. Thanos from Avengers movie might say he is inevitable, but change in real is inevitable. Therefore, accepting this inevitable is the only option that we as individuals possess.

So, can we change the CHANGE? Surely, we can! after all we are the drivers of change and it happens around us and because of us.

So, if you don’t like your car, change it.

If you don’t like your house, change it.

If you don’t like your job, change it.

If you don’t like your spouse, well! not many options you have there.

But we can surely change the mentality and our behavior, which would be an excellent example of adapting to the situation. As the famous saying goes, IMPROVISE, ADAPT & OVERCOME.

When you take the liberty to change the situation, or the context of the situation to get a desired result, that is improvisation. Changing something that you are not satisfied with, to its better version or replacing it both on the inside and on the outside is improvisation.

Adaptation however is change, but it refers to the one that you bring in yourself to better fit the surroundings,

And so, the question in context should not be CAN YOU CHANGE? because it is only a matter of time, as some changes might not be visible in the instance of moment but over a period of time everyone changes. And because you have changed a lot from what you were a few years back, so you do posses the ability to change, the pace however varies from person to person as some of us have a high ADAPTABILITY QUOTIENT, hence they accept and adapt to the changes happening in their environment quickly as compared to others.

And that is the reason why the question should be DO YOU HAVE THE INTENT TO CHANGE? because without the intent, even a well-planned change is tough to sustain. The best examples would be breaking of bad habits such as smoking, drinking, etc.

People change according to the environment they are present in; the mentality might look stable but in reality, it is in a constant state of flux as mind gets influenced by the environment. A funny but worth sharing experience is given as under:

A colleague was once very frantic and outspoken, he used to speak a lot about things that people around would be offended with and even if the content wasn’t offending, the way of speaking absolutely was. Making assumptions, claiming things that only an extremist would do, but he would act in complete denial when confronted. For better or worse he had an experience, accidentally one of his outbursts was recorded on a video and that video was shared with other colleagues as well.

The interesting thing happened when he saw the video himself and realized his mistake. Of course, everyone made fun of him but something changed. He changes gradually over a period and the difference was visible. The moment when he saw it, he uttered “What was I thinking” and that is the same thing we realize when we remember what mistakes we made earlier.

So, whenever you have those “What was I thinking” moments, don’t just sit down and regret that, show the intent to change unless you want to keep having those moments in future.

Try to improvise your approach or adapt to the situation, but show the intent to change otherwise “What was I thinking” will keep on happening and you will regret it. As someone very wisely said: -  

BETTER PREVENT & PREPARE THAN REPENT & REPAIR

So, prevent some damage which you cause to relationships, both formal & in-formal,

Because no matter what amount of good feelings, deeds & memories you’ve accumulate as collateral,

No one is insuring relationships.

For example, when you meet your “used to be best buddy” after years, you feel overjoyed seeing him/her because you remember the connection which you used to have amongst. However, the connection now is not of the same intensity and the words “Wow! You’ve changed a lot” aren’t far away. The reason is: -

You both parted ways, you faced different environment, you both realize that you’ve changed but differently, none of them both know how the other has CHANGED. So, they can’t IMPROVISE, they can’t ADAPT as instantly as they would’ve if they didn’t loose contact. Hence, they can’t OVERCOME the gap.

Not everyone reading this would’ve encountered this situation because of a wonderful quality called UNDERSTANDING which contributed to ADAPTABILITY.

So, Adaptability it is, right? Does it mean we should try to fit in whatever the situation? Not exactly, it should be first thought that if we change according to the situation, will it result in a positive changed in us or will it deteriorate the quality of our living and thinking. Because change refers to reaching a stage which is different than the existing stage. It can be a better stage or worse than the existing.

Much literature talks about being conscious as long as possible and live life consciously. In short, the emphasis is on “Living in the moment”. Change when accepted and implemented should be done consciously so that it can be done for good and is sustainable.

Success changes people, failure changes people, and there are some legendary people who change failure to success and some human cabbage turning success to failure. The sheer difference between them is they were conscious about what they were doing. So, be conscious as in think this:

Are majority of the people you meet arrogant with you?

Does majority of your circle talk behind your back?

Do you always have a hard time getting things done?

Do you always feel distant and left out in most of the occasions?

Do you realize that you might have lost some good friends?

Do you often have memories of the actions and wonder “What was I thinking!”?

Then, o dear one, there is no better product to fulfill your demand than CHANGE, the upside is you do not have to pay bucks and the downside or rather cost is you have to pay “INTENT”.

SO,

Go out by putting a smile on that beautiful face, and I am sure you will change something and if you are lucky then SOMEONE. Because,

हालात तो हर कोई बदल सकता है, इंसान को बदलो, तो कुछ बात है।

( Translation: Everyone possesses the power to change a situation, a unique accomplishment would be to change a human being)

Written By,

Nihar H. Mehta